Debated forgiving that actor who made the weird joke in 2018 after his 4 minute apology video

I picked giving him another chance since he donated $5,000 to a local youth program, but now I'm wondering if that was too easy on him - has anyone else struggled with separating the apology from the charity move?

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tessap7312d agoMost Upvoted

The whole $5,000 number feels calculated. That's a donation amount that gets you a nice tax write-off and a mention in a local paper, but it's not enough to actually fix anything meaningful in a youth program. It's the minimum amount that still sounds generous on paper.

felixm2913d ago

Man that "separating the apology from the charity move" part hits hard. I had a friend who went through something similar with a local politician who donated to a animal shelter after a scandal. My friend was all set to forgive the guy, even talked him up at a party. Then a week later she found out the guy's team basically leaked the donation amount to the press before he even said sorry. She felt super played, like the charity was just a PR move to soften the apology. Now she won't even donate to that shelter anymore because it reminds her of the whole mess.

abbyp6113d ago

That line about "leaked the donation amount to the press before he even said sorry" really got me. @felixm29 I think that part is where trust completely breaks down, right? The timing is everything. In my experience, when someone does a good deed but makes sure you know about it before they even apologize, it just turns the whole thing into a transaction. It stops being about making things right and becomes about looking good. I feel for your friend too, it sucks when a cause you care about gets dragged into someone's image repair. Honestly, it makes you wonder if the apology ever would have happened without the press covering the charity part.