Wait, 2 years and a clinic in Phoenix? That sounds like a made up story for a movie. Most people who join groups like that leave on their own when they get sick of the rules, not because a doctor told the wife to stay home. I get that family pressure can backfire, but calling it a cult and bringing in a therapist to deprogram someone feels like a lot. Half the time people just need space to figure stuff out, and yeah that takes a while. Nine weeks after she stopped showing up sounds like a neat ending somebody wrote to prove a point.

Man, I used to roll my eyes at people who said "check your settings first" because I always assumed I knew my own account better than some toggle. Then my Spotify kept switching to some random country and I spent days thinking my account got jacked. Turns out I had logged into a VPN once and the region setting stuck. Now I check that stuff before I even touch a password reset. Your kids mode thing is exactly the same trap, it hides in plain sight and messes with stuff on purpose. Lesson learned the hard way for both of us.