My barber in Tulsa asked if I actually knew what I wanted before I sat down, and it fixed way more than my hair

Phoenix Grant · 2026-10-03T03:20:02.995232+00:00

I used to sit in the chair and just say 'a little off the top' because picking a real style felt like it mattered too much. Then a guy named Ray in Tulsa stopped me cold and asked, 'Do you know what you want, or are you just here to get smaller?' I thought about that for a bit and started showing him a photo on my phone, 3 buzzes on the sides, longer on top. He cut it in 20 minutes and I've gone back every 4 weeks since. It made me wonder how many other choices I'm just avoiding by going smaller instead of aiming at something. Where has a blunt question made you finally pick a direction instead of coasting?

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