Update: The day I found the divorce papers in the laundry basket

I was in the garage sorting clothes for wash around 3pm on a Tuesday. Found a sealed envelope buried under my husband's gym shirts. Inside was a draft of the divorce petition he'd printed from a legal site. I didn't confront him right away. Instead I scanned it, put everything back exactly where I found it, and called a lawyer the next morning. He filed two weeks later without ever telling me he had that draft ready. Anyone else find evidence before the actual conversation happened?

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shane_bell1d ago

Three weeks. That's how long my ex had a printed separation agreement in his nightstand drawer before he ever said a word to me. I found it when I was looking for a lost earring, which is such a cliche but it really happened. I gotta say though, I don't see this the same way you do. You scanning and hiding it, then getting your own lawyer in secret - that's basically the same game he was playing, just with a different start time. Maybe I'm old school, but I think finding something like that means you've got an edge to have the real conversation, not to start plotting your own secret moves.

kellygrant23h ago

Wait, you actually found a separation agreement in a nightstand drawer? That's next level. My ex just left his password saved on the family computer like an amateur. But here's the thing - I get what you're saying about having an edge for the real conversation, but in my defense, I found his lawyer's business card in the junk drawer first. That's not an edge, that's a warning shot. I wasn't trying to start a secret war, I was just trying to catch up. Though honestly, if I'd found a whole printed agreement, I probably would have taken a picture with my phone and then tried to act normal for way too long, which is basically the same as hiding it.