I changed my mind about keeping the house after the split.

My choice was between selling it right away or trying to buy out my ex and stay. I picked staying, thinking it would keep things stable for my kids. After six months of struggling with the mortgage alone, I realized it was a mistake. Has anyone else tried to keep the family home and found it was too much?

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williamw755mo ago

Yeah, it's a classic trap. We get so attached to the idea of normal for the kids that we ignore the math. Seen it happen a few times now.

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phoenix_singh255mo ago

I mean, the "ignore the math" part is what gets me. Sometimes the math is too simple, you know? Like if moving means a way better job and a bigger house, but you stay put for a school district that's only slightly better. That's just fear talking. Kids are way more flexible than we give them credit for. They make new friends. Staying somewhere that holds the whole family back just for a vague idea of "normal" seems like the real trap.

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the_viola5mo ago

Oh man, that is so tough. I tried to do the same thing and the money stress was just crushing. You are not alone in feeling that way at all.

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