Finished my first real bookshelf after 3 failed attempts

I spent last Saturday building a bookshelf out of pine from Home Depot, and my neighbor Bob walked over to tell me my dado joints actually looked decent. He's been doing woodworking for like 40 years so that little comment from him really made my day. What was the first thing someone said to you that made you feel like you finally knew what you were doing?

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simon_carr13d ago

The cool thing about getting that first real compliment is it changes how you hear your own inner voice. Before Bob said that, every little mistake probably felt huge and permanent. But after one outside nod, you suddenly see flaws differently, like your brain finally lets you trust the process a bit. It's wild how one comment from someone who's been doing it forever can just flip a switch in your head. That moment is usually followed by a week where you accidentally fix three other things you had given up on.

charlies3713d ago

Take it a bit less seriously. A nice comment can make your day, sure, but it won't magically rewire your brain. I've gotten compliments from folks I respect and still beat myself up over small things the next morning. It's nice for a moment, but that "switch flipping" sounds like something from a self help book. Usually you just go back to worrying about the next project before the day is over.

danielm8013d agoMost Upvoted

Is it really that simple though? I kind of agree with simon_carr that a compliment from the right person can shift how you see your own work, but it's more like a nudge than a full flip.

tessap7313d ago

Charlie said "before Bob said that" which is the part I keep thinking about. That's the thing nobody's talking about - HOW you get that compliment matters way more than what they actually say. Like if someone just says "good job" in passing, that barely registers. But when they stop what they're doing, look you in the eye, and name something specific? That's different. I've had that happen maybe three times in my life and every time it stuck because the memory of them pausing their own work to notice mine was what did it. It's not the compliment itself, it's the pause. The person taking time out of THEIR day to give you that moment. That's the part that might actually rewire something, not just the nice words.