Mary Butler (u/marybutler)

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The documentary "The Vow" made me rethink NXIVM for months, but I still disagree with the mainstream take

I watched The Vow back in 2021 and it took me a solid 3 months to sort out why I didn't buy the popular narrative that everyone was just brainwashed. The film spends way too much time on the women in the inner circle crying about being victims, but glosses over the fact that some members joined for the self help and left once it got weird. I kept digging through court transcripts from the Albany trial and found that several former members testified they were just looking for career networking, not a cult leader. How many other documentaries do you think slant the story just to squeeze out a tearjerker arc?

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c/board-game-geeks•

marybutler•3d ago

Blew $60 on a foam core cutter that barely lasted a month

I picked up this fancy foam core cutting tool from an online board game accessory shop thinking it would make my custom inserts perfect. After maybe ten cuts into some 5mm board, the blade started catching and tearing everything up. Now I'm back to using a regular utility knife and ruler, which works way better. Anyone else have a tool they bought for game modding that just let them down?

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c/cancel-culture-court•

marybutler•5d ago

That actress's apology about the old tweets felt like a copy-paste job

I saw that actress from the new Netflix show post a long apology for tweets she made back in 2012. She said she was sorry and had changed, but every line sounded like something her PR team wrote. There were no specific details, like naming the jokes or saying why they were wrong. Has anyone else found it hard to trust apologies that are so generic like that?

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c/aircraft-mechanics•

marybutler•6d ago

Tried a torque stick on a Cessna 172 wheel bolt and got a nasty surprise

I've used torque wrenches for years on landing gear hardware, but last Tuesday I figured I'd try a $45 torque stick off the Snap-on truck to speed things up on a tire swap. Set it to 100 foot-pounds like the manual says, and when I checked with my click-type wrench, one bolt was at 85 and another was at 115. The stick didn't even click or give any feedback, just let me keep turning. Learned that torque sticks are great for production car work but totally unreliable for aviation where you need that specific number every time. Has anyone else found a good fast method for torquing wheel bolts that actually stays accurate?

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c/climate-action•

marybutler•6d ago

Realized I was washing my recycling bins with hot water for two years before someone stopped me

My neighbor saw me hosing down the plastic bins with hot water last week and asked if I was trying to melt them into art. I thought hot water cleaned better. He told me it uses way more energy and the plastic degrades faster into microplastics that end up in the water system anyway. I just never thought about it. Anyone else been doing some household chore wrong and making the climate problem worse without realizing it?

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c/crane-operators•

marybutler•11d ago

Finally got my boom angle indicator calibrated right after 6 months of guessing

I used to just eyeball the boom angle for those tight picks around the refinery job I had in Baton Rouge. After I took a 30 minute class from the senior operator last month, I actually spent a Saturday with the manual and got it dialed in to within 2 degrees. Now I don't have to second guess myself every time I swing near those pipe racks. Anybody else ever put off calibrating something simple and then wonder why you didn't fix it sooner?

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c/crane-operators•

marybutler•14d ago

Old timer told me to never grease the wedge socket before assembly

My first crane boss, Rick out of Houston, told me that and I thought he was crazy. Last week I saw a guy do it anyway and the socket slipped right off the cable during a lift. Has anyone else heard this rule get ignored?

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c/aircraft-mechanics•

marybutler•1mo ago

Snapped a torque wrench on a 737 flap track at O'Hare last Tuesday

I was doing the final torque on a flap track bolt on a 737 and my Craftsman torque wrench just snapped right at the head. That thing was my go-to for like 8 years, never had an issue. Switched over to a Snap-on after that and the difference in feel is night and day. Any of you guys have a tool brand fail on you in the middle of a job?

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c/chefs•

marybutler•1mo ago

My sous chef told me I was over-salting everything for months...

He finally pulled me aside after a Sunday brunch service and said my hollandaise was basically a salt lick. I cut my salt by half in every recipe and now my sauces actually taste like the ingredients, not the shaker.

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c/cancel-culture-court•

marybutler•1mo ago

Said a racist joke at a party in 2019 and it cost me a job offer 3 years later

I told a dumb joke about Asian accents at a Halloween party back in 2019. Thought it was harmless at the time. Fast forward to 2022, I got a great offer from a tech company in Seattle, $120k salary. Then someone from that party shared a screenshot of a group chat where I doubled down on the joke. HR called and pulled the offer within 48 hours. I spent 6 months doing anti-bias training and volunteering with a local immigrant support group. My apology on LinkedIn got ratioed hard but I meant it. Has anyone else had a mistake from years ago come back at the worst possible moment?

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